Settling
Should one marry or commit to another person they are not crazy about? The other person is a "good person," but there are things lacking...
It just seems like settling...
It just seems like settling...
posted by E-Double at 10:26 PM
4 Comments:
Is it to keep one of them in the country?
The settling question is complicated and varies in my opinion. In my situation I felt I was settling with a former fiancé who I loved but felt there were things missing and that there was some relationship out there closer to perfect. I felt exhilarated by the thought of finding that better match and decided to break up. I felt relatively numb through the breakup anesthetized by the thought of my new life but she was distraught.
It took me a few months to realize what I destroyed; I didn’t realize what I had till I lost it. Sure I found women to date with some of the qualities that I thought my former was lacking but they lacked so much more. The numbness wore off, I realized how much I loved my former fiancé but it was too late. She moved out west and never would really talk to me again.
I have had relationships since but nothing that lasted or with the genuine feeling I had for my fiancé. At times I feel a combination of guilty, empty and sad that I didn’t realize what I had but life goes on.
No, it's not to keep one of them in the country. It's because one of the two is contemplating "giving up."
Damn, anonymous. Sorry to hear about the loss. But what if you feel guilty, empty and sad, and you're with someone?
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